Ego Amaka.

what staying around rich friends has taught me.

Ego Amaka - Igbo for “Money is good.”

Hey there! Hosanna here.

I know you’re reading this because you want to know what having rich friends has taught me.

Well, I’ll tell you. 😂

I’m not rich yet. I’m pre-rich. But I’ve been moving a lot like I have all the money in the world. Not like I’m going to clubs to do Oblee or I’m spraying money in the air at parties but I’m slowly being transformed to see what they see, and how they see it.

So here’s what I’ve been learning.

•Everything is not luxury.

I remember going to buy food once, and I added two boiled eggs. A random man standing nearby looked at me and said, “Only you, two eggs in this economy?”

And I laughed, but it hit me how scarcity can shrink your sense of what’s reasonable. Rich friends have taught me that there’s a difference between being wasteful and simply not living in survival mode. You can enjoy small things without guilt.

•Exposure is education.

You start to realise that half of what you called “contentment” was just a lack of imagination. Seeing what’s possible makes you rethink what you’ve been settling for. It’s not envy, it’s expansion.

•Comfort is not a sin.

Many of us (especially those who grew up middle-class or hustling) have internalized the idea that peace, ease, and comfort are luxuries we don’t deserve until we’ve suffered enough.

But being around people who have money teaches you that comfort isn’t indulgence. It’s a basic ingredient for thinking clearly, dreaming freely, and living well.

It’s not about being wasteful. It’s about realizing you don’t have to apologize for wanting or having nice things - physical, emotional, or mental.

•You can want more without hating where you are.

That’s something I’ve had to sit with. For a long time, I thought wanting more meant I was being ungrateful. Like every time I dreamt of a softer life, I was somehow betraying where I came from.

But being around rich friends has shown me that desire doesn’t cancel gratitude. It actually deepens it. You can love your now and still long for better. You can appreciate your ₦3,000 and still plan for the day when you don’t have to check your account balance before saying “yes.”

Wanting more doesn’t mean you hate where you are. It just means you can see where you could be. It’s the difference between contentment and complacency. One celebrates progress. The other pretends there’s nothing left to reach for.

•Understanding replaces Envy.

Funny enough, being around them has also softened how I see them. I used to think privilege made people shallow, that they couldn’t possibly understand real struggle. But proximity changes perspective. You start to see the pressure, the loneliness, the unspoken expectations that come with having.

You stop envying their privilege because you realize wealth doesn’t exempt anyone from being human. It just gives them different battles, different weights to carry.

Yup. That's it.

I’ve learned way more than these but I’ll give you these for and you’ll see the rest when I write you again.

So yeah, I’m still pre-rich. But at least now I know how rich people think and honestly, it’s dangerously contagious.😂

Well better prepare, because very soon, I’ll be the rich friend y’all will have around.

Let me know the lessons you’ve learned from staying around rich people.

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