Boyfriend. Girlfriend.

There, I said it.

Pinterest.😍

Oh la la la. The struggle to write this finally confirmed what I’ve always known and have always confirmed. Writing is hard.

Well, that being said. Hey there, Hosanna here.🙂‍↕️ The absolute love of your life. I’ve come here to say one thing, or maybe two things or five. Okay, let’s just go with the flow.

I opened Substack on a random day and saw a post someone made and it was something about, “My boyfriend sent me this” with pictures attached. It healed me. I smiled a little too much.

What her boyfriend sent to her didn’t heal me, the word, “boyfriend” did. It felt so good to see it. Not “a close friend”, not “my guy”, not “my best friend”. My Boyfriend.

For very weird reasons(that are obviously unknown😂), it made me giddy with excitement.

Coupled with that, the past weeks have come with loud announcements from people in relationships. What a good time to be alive.🙂‍↔️ To know that two people are in love and in a relationship. Some people still struggle to call, “boyfriend” or “girlfriend”, especially my born again brothers and sisters. They’ll rather call the girl watermelon, than say, “that’s my girlfriend”. Some people even say, “my guy”. I’ve heard, “dear”, “Queen”, “My heart”. Oh, the OG one, “bestie”😂. Don’t even get me started with the “my buddy” and “my best pal” people, because, are you insane?😂

See. I’ve heard so many ridiculous names and due to the fact that some of them are subscribed to my newsletter, I won’t be mentioning them.😂 But if you give me money, I’ll write a sequel and dedicate it to mentioning the names. All of them.🙂‍↕️

Maybe they think the concept of “boyfriend” and “girlfriend” is carnal(well, except you people are fornicating🌚 Even though these days, you don’t need a relationship to fornicate). That aside.😂 But tell me, what else are you in that unmarried romantic relationship? Brother? Sister? You’re a boyfriend and you’re a girlfriend. If you like call her “Cutie pie” or call him “Diamond”.

But as human beings, I must confess that we’re making progress. No, honestly. See where we started from, see where we are now.😂🙏🏾 People can publicly say they’re in a relationship and go ahead to mention the word, “boyfriend” and “girlfriend”. Was it like this in 2008?

One of the arguments then was that the concept of boyfriend and girlfriend was completely sexual but is it?🌚 Let’s see.

Spoiler: the word is not that scandalous. I checked.

You see that word? Or.

Romantically or sexually. Not and. Not exclusively. Or. Meaning the word was always big enough to hold all of it - the hand-holding, the long phone calls, the “I thought of you today”, and yes, whatever else. The word never had one meaning. It had a range. And somewhere in that range is exactly where you and your person are standing.

So you were never running from something carnal. You were running from a word that, by definition, just means someone you like. A lot. Someone you choose. Consistently.

So, go ahead. Call her your girlfriend. Call him your boyfriend.🙂‍↕️ You can be the first in your bloodline, and you're safe. For real..

“That's my boyfriend” “That's my girlfriend”. How cute!

I am rooting for every single one of you. Loudly. Like a big sister who absolutely loves you!😂

And yes, if your own pet name is, “dear”, I’m not sure you should be inside a relationship, dear.😂

Love,

Hosanna.🙂‍↔️♥️